You are tired, worn down, stressed, I get it and I am here to help. Let's avoid burnout together by understanding what causes burnout in the first place.
1. Time is Currency
This is the biggest piece of advice that I can give to anyone experiencing burn out. I very rarely experience burn out because I treat my time like it is a million dollar currency and I promise you it works. For example, I have a day job from 9-5 and I am an entrepreneur from 6-10. Everything about my life is intentional, planned out and organized. So how to do I have time with my husband, girlfriends and netflix? I plan it out. If this sounds daunting to you, please detach the idea of everything being planned as a bad thing. It is a very good thing because you know what to expect, every...single...day. I don't miss out on brunches, fun trips or romantic dates because I plan them. I want to make it clear that your life, your happiness and your time is completely up to you. Start getting organized about your day, don't be afraid to write lists on your phone with check marks. I LOVE those. They work and it gives you something to feel excited about accomplishing at the end of each day. Your girlfriend has a bachelorette party coming up? Great, put it in the calendar and know that when it comes, your focus should be 100% on that bachelorette party. Which brings me to my next topic. Presence.
2. Being Present
I will be the first person to say that I struggle with this one and it takes continuous discipline to perfect this topic. If you are going to "have it all" and balance your life, you need to be present in whatever moment that you are in. If you are on a date night, the only thing you should be focused on is that date night. Nothing else. Burnout comes from the fear of not accomplishing something so we internalize, stress about it and then it shows up externally in our workplace and with the people we love. There is NOTHING that will fail if you leave it alone for an hour, a day, or a weekend. Eliminating this fear is key in understanding why you are experiencing burn out in the first place.
3. If you Don't Love It, Ditch It
If you are not in love with something and it is consuming your time, ditch it. Remember when I said I treat my time like it is a million dollar currency? This is your "ah hah" moment. You wouldn't spend a million dollars on something or someone you don't love so why waste your precious time? If you are seeking approval from people in order to feel your best self, that is a very dangerous place to be. Trust me, I was there for many years. It took extreme coaching, a million different podcasts and finding the right life partner to get me to the place I am now. But when you get there, it is incredible. I do not need the opinion of others to validate anything. Happiness and balance is the number one goal. Do what makes you happy and you won't experience burn out. It sounds silly and simple, but it is. The hard part is battling your mind and getting to a place where you can organize the chaos. Start with a simple list and feel it out. Becoming aware that you need to change your habits is the first step to becoming a happy, balanced you. Good luck and I look forward to hearing about your self care journey.
Founder of Indigo Aura Self Care