Knowing how to declutter your life is more essential than ever before. We live in a time where working around the clock has been normalized and instead of adding to your routine, I am going to show you how to kick the unnecessary habits that are holding you back.
1. Let Negative People Go.
I don't know about you, but as an admitted people pleaser, this has always been difficult for me. It was not until my late twenties, that I started to realize the importance of my circle and the people I choose to surround myself with on a regular basis. We are the average of the five people we spend most of our time with. Think about that for a minute. Do those people encourage you, inspire you, push you to be better or challenge you to think differently? If the answer is yes, you go girl! This is not keeping you from living your best life. If the answer is no, it is time to evaluate the true reason you are allowing these people to stay in your life. This doesn't mean that the people around you will be the same, it means that collectively, you will have similar values, clear communication and constructive conversation.
Keeping negative people and energy in your life is a roadblock to your happiness and will affect your day to day when it comes to taking care of your mental health. In fact, it has a much larger impact than you think. For example, what if you had a concept in mind for a project that is really great and the first person you tell is someone who has a negative response to everything. They could easily tear it down out of jealousy, hate or simply because negative breads negative. That could be a project that changes your life, but you may never do it because that person put an idea in your head that made you less than. Letting these people go will free up your time and self love for all the boss babe goals you are looking to achieve! Remember, life is hard as it is... especially for women. Let's make it easier by freeing our time and space for people who actually deserve it!
2. Set Boundaries with Yourself
Have you ever said yes to everything and no to a small percent of invitations that come your way? And then, you regret saying yes when they come up? You are not alone and I have certainly learned this the hard way. It is essential that we set boundaries with ourselves so that we don't over commit, overextend and over promise. You are not a bad salesperson, you are a human and I promise that the people who love you, will not stop loving you if you don't say yes to everything. There is a level of down time that needs to happen in order to reset, recharge and be the best we can be for ourselves and our loved ones. Next time you receive an invite for something that you know will compromise your peace of mind, say no. I guarantee you will be happy about it and start to do it more often.
3. Set Expectations and Boundaries with Loved Ones
Setting expectations with loved ones can be challenging and uncomfortable. Especially when you are looking to make changes in your life. The best way to approach this is to set the expectation and give your why. For example. If you want to start a new hobby and it cuts into something that you and your family or loved ones do on Sundays, explain why this hobby is important and have the conversation so that adjustments can be made. One of the biggest issues that we run into is lack of communication, therefore boundaries are not set, and people get hurt. When I started the concept of my business a year ago, I really had to think about how this would affect my husband. I presented him with my idea and later on I set expectations with the biggest outcome possible. For example. I said, what if this thing blew up and became huge, what would you think?" He then jokingly said, "I would love to be a stay at home dad." (For the future children that we do not currently have). All jokes aside, it was a conversation that was had, whether it happens or not and that is the idea. The more communication that we have with loved ones, the less surprises there will be, and we will be able to take on our biggest dreams.