When I was a little girl, I continuously compared myself to other girls and never thought that I would be talented enough, smart enough and genuinely thought I was alone. I thought that no one else felt this way and 20+ years later, I learned that all women experience imposter syndrome not just once in their life, but often. Over the years, I have developed several methods to combat imposter syndrome and I am excited to share them with you.
Imposter Syndrome "the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills."
You are not alone, in fact most women experience imposter syndrome. It looks like, why me? Why would I deserve this promotion when other people are far more talented, why would I ever become an executive, VP or even CEO. Why should I ask for a raise when I have only been at the company for a year? Why would I start a business when I know nothing about x, y, z. I am not qualified. But, you are. I started to notice the effects of my imposter syndrome when I entered the corporate world and watched less qualified people get promoted over me because they happened to be more confident. I let it happen because I wasn't confident enough in my abilities, but more importantly, I didn't ask for it because I genuinely did not think I deserved it. And that is my fault.
I hit an "ah hah" moment when I was the highest performer in my department and continued to watch other people get promoted over me as a direct result of my insecurity. At that point, I asked for a raise and promotion. And... I did not get it. So I left the company and took my talent to a company that paid me significantly higher, appreciated my talent and work ethic. The difference? I stood up and realized my worth. From then on, I promised myself that my lack of confidence would never get in the way of my professional life ever again, and it did not.
How I got there. To give you context, I have always had massive dreams. I am the person who knew at a very young age that I would accomplish anything I set out to do. I just let my imposter syndrome get in the way and honestly, it comes back up every once in awhile and I have to check it at the door. I got there by visualizing the proof. If you don't think you are not worth it or good enough, look at all the things you did to get there. Look at your resume, look at all the opportunities you have spearheaded over the years and listen to the people who support the facts. People will compliment your accolades over the years, listen to them!
Your crew matters. If you surround yourself with people who subconsciously support the idea of imposter syndrome, this will not help you. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, tell you that you are enough, extremely capable and deserving. Sometimes it takes one conversation to kick imposter syndrome in the face and live your best life. I hope this was helpful and feel free to reach out for any questions or topics that you would like to see next!
You've got this! It all starts and ends with your mindset.